Category Archives: Sex

Taboo to you?

 

What do you consider to be taboo?

When you think about this question, let’s take religion out of the equation all together.  We all know that just about anything that is truly enjoyable in life is taboo from a religious perspective.  This is doubly true if you are Catholic or Orthodox Jew.

Let’s look more at how we live our lives and the places we live.  The cultures that we are part of and the people that we associate with.  Your family influence and the influences of your friends and acquaintances.

First, there are things that go beyond taboo.  Child porn, snuff films, rape (I will not count ‘Rape Fantasy Role-play’), things like that are just wrong on too many levels to even really begin talking about.  If you are into any of those, not only do I now want to hear about it, I would like it if you deleted the link to my site and never show up again and as an added bonus, find the nearest police station and turn yourself in.

With the exception of the stuff that seriously harms others, I am a very sexually open person.  I will discuss these topics openly to anyone and will rarely tell a person that they are out of line or being disgusting or immoral.

I see sex and sexuality to be the ultimate equalizer.  It is something that we all have in common.  We are, as humans, sexual creatures. It is what we do, how we procreate, many times a form of entertainment, something that strips you down to your bare self.  When you lie in bed next to someone, whether you are in a hetrosexual, homosexual, whatever relationship, you are exposed.  What you are is wide open and vulnerable to the person next to you.

So why is it that culture takes this point in our lives, a point when we have the most to lose, baring ourselves for others to see, and tells us that unless this is done within wedlock, it is a sin?   Something that should be shameful?  Something to repent for? Why is it that if you truly love or have a physical need to share yourself with another, even if it is someone of your same sex or with multiple partners at the same time, as long as you are doing so willingly and no one is being forced into anything, to many it is still considered a taboo?

Whether it is a one-night-stand or a committed relationship, you are still opening yourself up to another person, there is a sharing process that both, or all participants, are committed to, even for that one night.   How can it truly be a sin or taboo, unless you are ONLY basing that label on the religious point of view.

I would challenge that it is not.  Sharing of ones self is and can be an incredible and beautiful thing.  The ultimate in sharing is to give ones self over entirely to another, and as long as that is not abused by either of the parties, it cannot be taboo.

These are just my opinions, nothing more.

 

 

Writing erotica

 

When I first picked up my proverbial pen and began writing in this genre, I was nervous.  There are a great many stereotypes that I had in my minds eye about it that I was worried about as took my first steps.

See… when I started, I thought that this would be a community of seedy, dirty minded people that were all of questionable background that were not really good at anything else.

To my surprise, I have found that this is a community of friendly, helpful people that are a genuine pleasure to talk to and associate with.  Some of them are not just skilled at the craft of erotica, but at other genres as well and just accept it as another area to write in.  On top of all this… they just happen to have the added benefit of a dirty mind.

I have met people that write Futa, LBTG, you name it, and I really enjoy my association and interaction with them.  They, as you might otherwise LOGICALLY surmise, are just as ordinary as everyone else you might meet.  Some of them I have met on the sites I visit and others I have met in person.

I have, through my experiences, learned that if you are walking do a street and bump into any one of them, you would have not a clue that within the mind of that person, lies a vast network of steamy, sultry, erotic horniness that is waiting to spill it’s seed onto the page for you and I to read.

So now, here I am.  Slowly working my way into this growing group of people, of all ages, of all sexes, of all lifestyles.  And I feel… comfortable.

Thank you to all of you that helped this first year become a fun experience.  Looking forward to the many to follow.

 

Life is unfair…

 

I had one of those sad realization today.

As I was sitting and people watching, I watched a woman walk by.   She was not anything to shout about, but she was not unattractive either.  But her looks were not what made me think.

It was her breasts.

Is was very obvious that she wasn’t wearing a bra, she really did not need one, but her nipples were hard.  I mean really hard, to the point where I am sure that they must of been sensitive.  I am not sure if it was because of the cold, or if it was because she happened to see me.

Well… once can hope.

But it caused me to think.  When a woman  gets cold, her nipples will get hard and sensitive.  Why can the same thing not happen to a man?  Why is it that a good icy cold wind cannot give me a raging boner?  I mean, it’s not like I have an problem with getting the machinery working or anything, but if having a go at it in a freezer or a cold room could make the process last longer or keep old John T up and running for the long haul…  see what I did there?  LONG haul?   Then I would probably be keeping my bedroom at about fifty-five degrees all the time.

It’s just so unfair.

Photo Credit: NYC Porn Film Festival

Miley Cyrus…

OK… So I will admit it.

Miley Cyrus is certainly not a woman I would kick out of bed.   She is in a long list of women that I would not mind hopping in the sack with, but not necessarily like to wake up with.

Yes, I guess that makes me a “MAN”, as one of my bar friends tells me when I talk with her.  We talk about things like this often.  What kind of man she likes, what kind of women I like.  We banter each other about things like this all the time and I always have to reminder her that my interest in women is, for the sake of this article, professional reasons, as I like to write about them and my experiences with them.

My friend, I will call her Christy for now, but she might remind you more of a prettier Rachel Rae, who likes to smoke cigars and drink scotch, and I both agree that Miley is a looker.  Great body, looks like she would be a tiger in bed and might give you a ride that you would remember for some time.  But we both agree, as well, that along with that body would probably come the baggage of a grade-A prima donna.  But Christy, whom has never ADMITTED to being interested in women, and will probably hit me in the head when she reads this, agrees that a night rollicking in a hotel room in the heated, passionate, filthy exchange of bodily fluids with Miley, might be fun.

As long as she and her baggage were gone the next morning.

 

Sex and the period… Just a thought.

This is not a full post, I am just thinking aloud with this one.

I would like to see how many men out there (or women, for the lesbian readers I might have) have an issue with menstrual sex.

I have no problem with it as long as SHE is ok with it.  I mean there are certain acts I will not perform, mainly the dining experience, but most of the rest I have no issue with.

I have met some women that are seriously against it, and others that seem to be more aroused and active when they are on their period.

So just a thought and a request for comments from anyone out there that might have input.