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What do you look for in your company?


When I venture into a venue and when I am looking for someone to hook up with, or even just sit down to strike up a conversation with,  there are certain things I look for in a woman.  Things that trigger not only a “Turn-on” effect in me, but also an “you are really interesting” effect.

I am particularly picky about women.  Yes, I do like the aesthetic aspect… a good looking woman can be important, but what use is a really hot looking lady if, when you sit down and talk to them, they remind you of Fran Drescher from that silly Nanny program that was on some time ago?  Looks can be important, but I think the mind can be so much sexier.

You can sit at a table with someone you just met and like, and spend five minutes learning how irritating they can be, as in the Fran example above, or you can have several drinks with a woman that knows how to have a conversation, knows what she is talking about and then, if you decide to woo her away to your bed, and she says no… you still walk away like you have not lost anything, because the talk was worth it.

I especially like women that can talk sex.  Not the blatantly dirty stuff, anyone can do that, but the mildly suggestive discussions that are more hint and innuendo than anything else.  Mildly suggestive hints that let you know what each other likes, before you ever get to the bedroom.

But it does not have to be about sex.  I like people that can talk and be enjoyable to be around.  I typically look for people within ten years, plus or minus, of my age.  This range makes sure that there is enough in common to talk about and enough difference to make things interesting.  If the dialogue does lead to other things, then all the better, but it is certainly not the only goal I am looking for.

So what draws you to people?  What do you look for?

Dressing the part


Is it just me, or have men lost touch with the idea that women still like a well dressed man?

So I am sitting in a nice lounge on Marion Street, enjoying a couple drinks when I see a group of guys walk in.  I have been at this long enough to know when the wolves are on the hunt, and they were hunting.  But two of them looked like they had just left a gym and forgot to change and the other two looked like they were wearing their pants “sagging” and they were white.  It looks silly enough on non-whites, and it looks absolutely ridiculous on these guys.

So as the night wears on, they make their plays on a few women, and to their credit, they appeared to be polite enough, but they were rejected. Eventually they left, maybe in search of a more “hip-hop” style of pub where they would not look so foolish.

The point of this particular rant, however, is to point out that, for the most part I find that women still like a man that knows how to dress.  I am not saying show up to the bar in a tuxedo, or you will still be a stand-out, and not in the good way, more like the Dumb and Dumber way… unless there is a function at said pub that requires the tux.  I mean just dress nice for the place you are going.  If you are going to a country and western theme bar, wear nice jeans, a good shirt and tennis shoes or boots.  If you are going to the kind of places that I like, wear a dress shirt, no tie, slacks and nice shoes, comfortable ones in case dancing breaks out and you need to hit the floor.

Just think about it before you go.  Look the part, look like you want to be there and you belong there.  If you dress good, smell good and present yourself the right way, you can own the place and own the moment if you find yourself with the right, and receptive, woman.

After I wrote the above, I started thinking that some of what I just said could also apply to those of you reading that might frequent the gay bars, but not being a regular at any of them (I have been to a gay bar twice for friend’s parties in the last fifteen years), I could not tell you for sure if the same rules apply as for my kind of places.  If you happen to be a member of the LGBT community and reading this, you are more than welcome to chime in and offer your input.

But for the final thought, guys… keep us looking good for the ladies out there.  They will appreciate it and as an observer, so will I.